What Moms Really Need This Mother’s Day

It’s not flowers or cards—though those are lovely. It’s something deeper.

Mother’s Day has a way of stirring things up. For some, it’s a joyful celebration. For others, it’s layered with longing, grief, exhaustion, or a quiet ache. And for most moms I know, it’s a mix of everything — love, beauty, mess, and memory.

This year, I’ve been thinking about what moms really need on Mother’s Day.

What would it look like to feel truly valued — not just in a single celebration, but in the everyday rhythm of motherhood?

I think it looks like this:

Being seen —

not just for what we do, but for who we are.

Being honored —

not just with kind words, but with deep acknowledgment of the love we pour out daily — unseen, unmeasured, unwavering.

Being supported —

emotionally, physically, and practically — without having to ask.

Being loved —

gently, intentionally, without expectation.

So much of the work of motherhood is invisible.

It lives in the in-betweens — the quiet, constant load we carry.

It’s not just the meals made, but the grocery lists written with everyone’s preferences in mind… the store runs with children in tow, the snacks prepped, the food cooked, served, and cleaned up—every meal, every day, for everyone.

It’s the mental tabs that never close:

For the new moms—

Is baby getting enough milk?

Are there enough wet diapers?

Should their poop look like that?

Is this normal, or should I call someone?

Will I ever sleep again?

For the school-age years—

Is the homework done?

Are there permission slips to sign?

Is it pajama day or picture day?

Are the shoes getting too small?

Is that cough just a cough?

And even when they’re grown—

Are they eating enough?

Do they feel supported?

Are they overwhelmed and not saying anything?

Are they safe on the road? In their choices? In their relationships?

Do they know how deeply they’re still loved?

It’s the quiet anticipation of everyone’s needs before they’re spoken.

It’s the decisions made, the schedules juggled, the emotions absorbed.

It’s the bodies held close, and the feelings held even closer.

What moms really need on Mother’s Day isn’t a busy schedule or more things.

It’s presence.

It’s to be met with softness.

To hear, “I see you. I appreciate you. I love you.”

Mother’s Day shouldn’t be complicated or chaotic.

It doesn’t have to be big to be beautiful.

And most importantly, it shouldn’t be something a mom has to plan, prep, or make happen.

If you’re a dad reading this — check in.

Ask her what would actually feel good.

What would fill her love tank?

What would help her feel truly appreciated? That way, the love you show meets her where she is — and she receives it in the way her heart needs most.

From my heart to yours,

Sumer 💗